While reading a random article about a certain actress pictured while on her morning run, i came across a certain comment from a certain 'gentleman' X who wrote, "I could give her a better workout". That comment had about a 100 odd likes. It got me thinking what it is she did to deserve this unanimous "applause".
Growing up, i remember my mom watching these serials and movies where women in traditional attire, married and devoted to their husbands and kids were seen as 'goddesses' and working women who wore pants and drank and smoke were...well...sluts. I wonder if that has anything to do with why men stare at you when you're standing outside smoking. Or why women having a drink get beaten up in bars. So in effect, we tell people if you want to be respected, you follow a norm. And if you don't, you face the consequences. Abuse. Harassment. Molestation. Rape. Those are the consequences. Pretty harsh. And yet a lot of women out there choose not to follow the norm and risk those consequences. So let me ask you this Mr X: when these women choose to take the risk, do you think they're inferring that they want those things to happen to them? Do you think a certain porn star wouldn't mind being abused, harassed, molested or raped?
While we're at it, let me ask you another question Mr X. Lets assume you have a teenage daughter. And just for the sake of my sanity, lets assume you really love and care about her. Did you say you don't want her to wear skimpy clothes? Why? You seem to be paying a lot of attention to women in skimpy clothes. Isn't that what your teenage daughter wants too? Attention from the opposite sex? Did you say you do it discreetly? Oh but every time you stared at a woman while you were out with your daughter, every time you left a huge tip for an attractive waitress, every time you flirted with her very attractive mother or God forbid friend, were you trying to educate her on the importance of world affairs?
Lets say she grows up and and one unfortunate day when she gets back from work, she looks rather upset. She tells you a male co-worker had misbehaved at work by making some nasty comments about her body. Did you then tell her to dress more conservatively and not go out drinking with her male colleagues again? Of course you did.
Lets say a few weeks later, the same guy attacks her on her way back home. She comes back home shocked, shaken and traumatized. Lets say you go out and beat the living daylights out of him. When he does speak, he manages to say "I'm sorry man! She's just so hot and the clothes she wears, the things she does to other men, i thought she wanted to do those things with me too". And what do you say Mr. X? Isn't your daughter's torment justified? If everything he said was true, did she not automatically subscribe to the "I want to be abused, harassed, molested & raped" list? Will you go back home and tell her "I told you so!". For your daughter's sake and mine Mr. X, i seriously hope you don't.
And you Mr Y, the creator of these serials, movies and advertisements that is setting the norm for men and women, should you not take your job more seriously? If you think you have the authority to decide how the society as a whole perceives right from wrong, should you also not be accountable for the damage it causes? And how should we hold you accountable? Should we say that your daughters, wives, friends and mothers would not have any trials in court should they ever be abused, harassed, molested or raped? Would you say that was fair?
Least but not last, why are you women so intent on tearing other women apart? Does calling other women fat, ugly, immoral & unworthy make you feel superior? Perhaps yes. But does it make you feel beautiful, moral and worthy of more respect? Why would you look for imperfections in them with a magnifying glass? Is it that important for you to judge others to make your insecurities go away? Its as if you're looking for reasons to hate someone and then the hatred is so overpowering that you'll believe anything it manifests into. Where is the love that the world seems to think you have in abundance? If you think your man is having an affair with another woman, will hating her make your man more faithful? Will it guarantee that he won't be unfaithful with another? How many will you hate? Does hate not do you more harm than the other? It's much easier to hate someone than stop loving someone, isn't it? But hate doesn't give you hope. Love does. And don't we all survive on hope? If you didn't have any hope, how different are you from the rapist awaiting his death sentence?
Growing up, i remember my mom watching these serials and movies where women in traditional attire, married and devoted to their husbands and kids were seen as 'goddesses' and working women who wore pants and drank and smoke were...well...sluts. I wonder if that has anything to do with why men stare at you when you're standing outside smoking. Or why women having a drink get beaten up in bars. So in effect, we tell people if you want to be respected, you follow a norm. And if you don't, you face the consequences. Abuse. Harassment. Molestation. Rape. Those are the consequences. Pretty harsh. And yet a lot of women out there choose not to follow the norm and risk those consequences. So let me ask you this Mr X: when these women choose to take the risk, do you think they're inferring that they want those things to happen to them? Do you think a certain porn star wouldn't mind being abused, harassed, molested or raped?
While we're at it, let me ask you another question Mr X. Lets assume you have a teenage daughter. And just for the sake of my sanity, lets assume you really love and care about her. Did you say you don't want her to wear skimpy clothes? Why? You seem to be paying a lot of attention to women in skimpy clothes. Isn't that what your teenage daughter wants too? Attention from the opposite sex? Did you say you do it discreetly? Oh but every time you stared at a woman while you were out with your daughter, every time you left a huge tip for an attractive waitress, every time you flirted with her very attractive mother or God forbid friend, were you trying to educate her on the importance of world affairs?
Lets say she grows up and and one unfortunate day when she gets back from work, she looks rather upset. She tells you a male co-worker had misbehaved at work by making some nasty comments about her body. Did you then tell her to dress more conservatively and not go out drinking with her male colleagues again? Of course you did.
Lets say a few weeks later, the same guy attacks her on her way back home. She comes back home shocked, shaken and traumatized. Lets say you go out and beat the living daylights out of him. When he does speak, he manages to say "I'm sorry man! She's just so hot and the clothes she wears, the things she does to other men, i thought she wanted to do those things with me too". And what do you say Mr. X? Isn't your daughter's torment justified? If everything he said was true, did she not automatically subscribe to the "I want to be abused, harassed, molested & raped" list? Will you go back home and tell her "I told you so!". For your daughter's sake and mine Mr. X, i seriously hope you don't.
And you Mr Y, the creator of these serials, movies and advertisements that is setting the norm for men and women, should you not take your job more seriously? If you think you have the authority to decide how the society as a whole perceives right from wrong, should you also not be accountable for the damage it causes? And how should we hold you accountable? Should we say that your daughters, wives, friends and mothers would not have any trials in court should they ever be abused, harassed, molested or raped? Would you say that was fair?
Least but not last, why are you women so intent on tearing other women apart? Does calling other women fat, ugly, immoral & unworthy make you feel superior? Perhaps yes. But does it make you feel beautiful, moral and worthy of more respect? Why would you look for imperfections in them with a magnifying glass? Is it that important for you to judge others to make your insecurities go away? Its as if you're looking for reasons to hate someone and then the hatred is so overpowering that you'll believe anything it manifests into. Where is the love that the world seems to think you have in abundance? If you think your man is having an affair with another woman, will hating her make your man more faithful? Will it guarantee that he won't be unfaithful with another? How many will you hate? Does hate not do you more harm than the other? It's much easier to hate someone than stop loving someone, isn't it? But hate doesn't give you hope. Love does. And don't we all survive on hope? If you didn't have any hope, how different are you from the rapist awaiting his death sentence?
